Once you learn to control your behaviors, then you learn to control your thoughts. Control in this sense is not really control per se, but a conscious choice to change your behaviors and your thoughts. Being more aware of what you do and why you do it help you to analyze and decide if the things you think and do are actually the things that you choose to think and do. A change in focus does offer you the alternate vantage point from which to garner your perspective. If one day you see yourself as a poor worthless servant, then your thoughts and behaviors will reflect this perspective. Your actions follow your thoughts. Your thoughts follow your perspective. Your perspective follows your experiences. You do not come into this life with a particular perspective. Your experiences cause you to believe as you do about yourself and all of life. Two people having the same lives can have vastly different experiences.